Sunday, June 14, 2009

You might be the wife of an addict if........

You have slept with the car keys in your pillowcase so he doesn't sneak out.

You have come up with hiding places that the Easter Bunny would envy.

You have talked Pharmacists into giving you all kinds of information that's illegal.

You can look into the eyes of your husband and know EXACTLY what he's taken.

You have dumped hundreds of dollars worth of medication down your toilet.

You absolutely relish the good times, because you've tasted the bad.

Every once in awhile you see the man you married and your heart swells.

You know all his hiding places too.

You have tried to gracefully exit a family party with a high husband in tow.

You wish someone would fix it, but nobody can.

You run the show......more like his mother than his wife.

You wake up at night to make sure he's breathing.

You have a plan in place if one night he isn't.

You struggle to know what to say to your kids. What's age appropriate?

Your heart swells with pride when you can see him really trying.

Your heart breaks in half when he fails.

You are at times angry, sad, frustrated, furious, unkind, and tired.

You gladly take on life as a single mom as he struggles through months of treatment.

You hope.

You doubt decisions you have made. And the ones you are making right now, too.

You get angry when other just see the addict and not the man.

You have been shocked to find empty pill bottles in strange places.

You have gotten calls from pharmacies.

You have sent your husband to court and then spent an hour on your knees.

You cry in the bathtub, because if he hears you it only adds to his shame.

You know more than you ever wanted to about addiction and the 12 step program.

You have compassion and insight and love for an out casted group of people....and their wives.

You have been humiliated by him.

You have laughed at some crazy high behavior, in an effort not to scream or cry, or both.

You have felt the bondage of addiction and have never abused anything.

You have suffered the consequences of his decisions.

His behavior has affected friendships, family relationships, and your marriage.

You have taken his name off bank accounts, cut up credit cards and taken away vehicles.

You know too well how to "burn bridges" with doctor's offices.

You still love him.

You have more faith, hope, and strength than you ever knew possible.

In the end you are a better person because of it all.